The Mindset Guide

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We all have many different selves how we act when we are alone differs from how we act when we are with our family, or around friends or at work.

So what is our real self? The answer, I believe is all of them are authentic just different.

Different situations trigger different mindsets. How often have you gone back home and slipped straight back into behaviors learnt during childhood even though you left home decades earlier?

Stress can accentuate certain facets of our behavior. Some people rise to difficult occasions and are able to reveal parts of them that are not normally apparent. Others revert back to childhood patterns. Extreme conditions can remove the veneer, the mask that we all wear. Yet the mask is just as much a part of us, just as real as the core underneath.

All of our different selves are governed by mindsets. Some of our more primitive reactions such as fight or flight are ingrained deeply within us. Others are learned mindsets such as manners.

Our awareness of our own behavior also differs. Sometimes we are aware of making a huge effort and controlling how we behave. Other times we are more relaxed and allow different mindsets to dictate how we act, but it all in the end comes down to the internal programming that we have in our brains.

One of the most important steps when making a permanent change in a mindset is to line up role models. These are people both in your life and in the public domain who exemplify the mindset you are adopting.

it is also a time to reduce or eradicate those people in your life who hold contrary mindsets. It can be tough saying goodbye to people but it is very hard to make changes if the elements that represent the old way of thinking are still constantly around you.

So spend some time this week making a list of all the role models in your life. If they are famous read up on their profiles and biographies. If they are people you know, take them out to lunch or spend some time chatting with them.

Surrounding yourself with these people signals the brain to accept the new mindset.

Change starts in the mind. Whether you want to change your body, your job, your lifestyle, you need first to adopt a new mindset that supports the change. To do otherwise puts you in conflict with your own brain.

The brain can change. In fact its ability to do is astounding. If the brain is injured, it can rewire itself in order to replace lost functions.

We all have many mindsets that determine how we think, feel and act. Many of these mindsets are set before puberty. Though we may not be aware of it, a single comment made by a third grade teacher could influence a major life decision we make decades later.

Our parents are usually the biggest influencers of our mindset.

Our mindsets affect:

our occupation

how much money we earn

what we eat and how much we weigh

our choices of friends and romantic partner

what television and movies we watch

who we vote for

and every single other area of our life.

Our mindsets help inform the subconcious to form filters to the world so that we only see what our subconcious allows us to see.

We are rarely aware of all our different mindsets.